Aria says:
May 29, 2015 at 11:08 pm
I feel that there is a silent oppression that women are still being subjected to. There is a culture of lack of accountability with men and how they respond to a woman’s feelings. It’s amazing how so many times men say that women have got it wrong and read their signals incorrectly when they have taken us to the point of almost relationships.
The worst thing is grieving an almost relationship. Where your feelings, character and self worth have been damaged and you have nothing to show for it. You weren’t exactly in a relationship but it looked like a relationship, sounded like a relationship but it wasn’t a relationship. Then going forward you are no longer sure what a relationship actually looks like because your view becomes polluted with what is comfortable for him. You begin to question yourself and this leads to feelings of guilt and then you become stuck in this rut of guilt and heartbreak.
Ladies I say that we empower ourselves that we do the PICK, CHOOSE and REFUSE that we have become the recipient’s of. That we fall so completely, madly and deeply in love with ourselves that when the next chancer arrives, we are strong and secure within ourselves to see through what’s comfortable for him to what’s good for me..
I personally am tired of sacrificing my life, happiness and time by taking a chance on those who won’t take a chance on me.
So like I’ve read Jane saying “Take a chance on you, on your dreams and on your happiness” and that’s what I am doing
These tables could be turned and you could be with the perfect man for you but still be unhappy because we don’t know who we are as women and as people.
So let’s stop making it about those men who will never have the character to be more than mere moment in our story.
Their problems and insecurities are their’s and not ours. The guilt that you are feeling can work both ways . You are also entitled to have an opinion about him and how you find his behavior, games and disregard for your humanity unacceptable.
If he can’t see you for the treasure you are don’t stick around there go and be with the man who celebrates you and loves you.
It’s always about you. You are important, you are perfect and your mere presence on this plant means that you are enough because you matter.