Why do you like being alone so much? How come you don’t want to go out? Those are all questions I never ask myself but everyone around me seems to want the answers to. Sometimes I wonder why people feel the need to always place a label on someone. I don’t know how many times people have referred to me as being depressed or anti-social. However, just for those people who feel the need to know exactly why I am the way I am, I present to you The Theory of Oyinade…
This theory is based solely on three guiding principles revolving around the way that I think, feel and interact.
One, I am not a hardcore believer in astrology but for the sake of understanding, I must acknowledge that I am a Sagittarius. The Sagittarius symbol is a half-man, half-horse. We are straight-forward, free spirits with a strong desire to find our purpose. We do not like to be tied down or constricted in any way.
Two, When thinking about multiple intelligences, I possess the most strength in intrapersonal intelligence. This means that I am good at being aware of my own emotional states, feelings and motivations. I enjoy self-reflection, day-dreaming and anything that has to deal with me assessing who I am as a person and why I am that way.
Lastly, as much I hate to admit, I am an introvert. Unlike the common stereotypes, being an introvert doesn’t mean I always go to the corner of the room or that I lack the social skills needed to have a decent conversation. Me being an introvert, simply means that I tend to keep my emotions private and I learn well through observation. But most of all, I enjoy my time alone!
All of the guiding principles to The Theory of Oyinade point to one thing which is I VALUE my personal time. It is not because I am depressed or anti-social. It is just the way I am.
I love silence. I love being able to sit, alone, and get things done. I love being whisked away by my own imagination and philosophical thoughts. That is what I love most, however that doesn’t mean I don’t like to go out, meet new people and have a good time.
The Theory of Oyinade cannot be fully explained, only experienced. You can ask anyone, I am a joy to be around. However, when I want to be alone that’s all there is to it. I’m not going through anything, I’m just being who I am.
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